Iconic couples´ therapist and best-selling author of Mating in Captivity Esther Perel returns with a groundbreaking and provocative look at infidelity, arguing for a more nuanced and less judgmental conversation about our transgressions. An affair: It can rob a couple of their relationship, their happiness, their very identity. And yet this extremely common human experience is so poorly understood. Adultery has existed since marriage was invented, and so, too, the prohibition against it - in fact it has a tenacity that marriage can only envy. So what are we to make of this time-honored taboo, universally forbidden yet universally practiced? For the past 10 years, master therapist Esther Perel has traveled the globe and worked with hundreds of couples who have been shattered by infidelity. In The State of Affairs she asks, why do we cheat? And why do happy people cheat? Why does infidelity hurt so much? And when we say infidelity, what exactly do we mean? Is an affair always the end of a marriage? Affairs, she writes, have a lot to teach us about relationships. They provide unusual insight into our personal and cultural attitudes about love, lust, and commitment. Betrayal hurts, but it can be healed. An affair can even be the doorway to a new marriage - with the same person. With the right approach, Perel argues, couples can grow and learn from these tumultuous experiences, together or apart. Fiercely intelligent, The State of Affairs provides a daring framework for understanding the intricacies of love and desire. As Perel writes, ´´Love is messy; infidelity more so. But it is also a window, like no other, into the crevices of the human heart.´´ After listening to Esther read The State of Affairs, continue on as she opens the door to her office and invites you to listen in on actual couple sessions. These are unscripted conversations of real, anonymous couples grappling with infidelity fr 1. Language: English. Narrator: Esther Perel. Audio sample: http://samples.audible.de/bk/harp/006205/bk_harp_006205_sample.mp3. Digital audiobook in aax.
Iconic couples´ therapist and best-selling author Esther Perel returns with a provocative look at relationships through the lens of infidelity, providing the insight we so desperately need to help us move beyond a simplistic discussion. An affair: it can rob a couple of their relationship, their happiness, their very identity. Adultery has existed since marriage was invented, and so, too, have the prohibitions against it - in fact adultery has a tenacity that marriage can only envy. And yet this extremely common human experience is so poorly understood. What are we to make of this time-honoured taboo - universally forbidden yet universally practiced? Why do people cheat? When we say ´infidelity´, what exactly do we mean? Is there such a thing as an affair-proof marriage? Is it possible to love more than one person at once? Can an affair ever help a marriage? Psychotherapist Esther Perel is recognised as one of the most insightful and original voices on modern love. For the past 10 years, she has worked with hundreds of couples who have grappled with infidelity. Betrayal hurts, she argues, but healing is possible. An affair can even be the doorway to a new marriage - with the same person. With the right approach, couples can learn from these tumultuous experiences, together or apart. Weaving real-life stories with incisive psychological and cultural analysis, Perel invites listeners into a truly revealing exploration of modern marriage. 1. Language: English. Narrator: Esther Perel. Audio sample: http://samples.audible.de/bk/hodd/001299/bk_hodd_001299_sample.mp3. Digital audiobook in aax.
The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity (2017) by sex and relationship expert Esther Perel is an examination of unfaithfulness in romantic relationships—what it is, why it happens, and how different cultures handle it—as well as an exploration of what affairs can teach all lovers about healthy relationships. Perel takes a non-judgmental approach to the motivations of the cheater and the outside lover, as well as to the contributions of the betrayed partner to the relationship crisis. Purchase this in-depth analysis to learn more. 1. Language: English. Narrator: Dwight Equitz. Audio sample: http://samples.audible.de/bk/acx0/105798/bk_acx0_105798_sample.mp3. Digital audiobook in aax.